June 17, 2010
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Life - Always moving forward
There are points in my life where I find myself nostalgic. Not necessarily for the way things were but for the friends I had and have since lost touch with. My personality type is unique in that I am fine on my own, but also with a group. I adapt to my given situation. However because of this, and because of life in general, I often gain and lose friends along the way. Sometimes because they are nowhere to be found (even with social networking they find a way to be invisible) but mostly because life takes us in different directions.
It's not that I am sad that we move apart since I realized a long time ago that it happens. You cannot avoid it and that's what happens in life. No it's something more than that and it's hard to put my finger on it. It's like I want to still be the friend I was too them but the boat has sailed and there is no going back. You see life moves on with or without you. As my life changes so does theirs and sometimes it makes it difficult to stay in touch or find that spark that once united you in friendship. I start thinking how close we might have been in sometime in the past and how usually we just drift a part. There was nothing to break the friendship, and it leaves you almost without a sense of closure. Almost feeling incomplete like there was more to be said and done but it's too late.
You can't change the fact that two people sometimes move parallel and then split for no reason other than that's where life takes you. It's difficult to come to terms with but it must be accepted.
Have you ever lost a friend only to find yourself years later reminiscing about where they are or what they are doing? Have you reconnected with them and if so what came out of it?
Comments (5)
I can exactly relate this post. Reminds me when I broke up with my exbf. I wrote him after a month " With or without you life moves on....." He might thought I was tough enough to say it. It was not easy. It was like pretending not to breathe because you pretend there is no air. It hurts to move on sometimes when you know the person you are going to leave behind is someone you truly know you have loved, and yet you have to move on because it's not for him anymore. I'm still thinking of that special guy even it's been 6 mos. now and wondered if he ever think of me too sometimes.
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@Chemalexandru - Thanks! Coming from experience he thinks of you too. When you get really close to someone you never stop thinking of them. No matter who did the breaking up you always think back to days with the other person. I've been privileged enough to see that from both sides. Thanks for the great comment.
@The_Wandering_Coyote - Well, it's nice to hear that. I just wish he also move on happily. Anyway, experiences like that can help a lot to our growing up. At first when it happened it was not fun and has lots of struggle instead. But as times go by and there it happens again, it's just easy to handle because it's not new anymore.
Hope to read more post from you. Have a great weekend!
Yes. I've thought of her so often it's almost bizarre. She was my great pal in highschool. I can't find her in any of the reunion blog sites of books or anything. She's still listed as 'can't find her' which doesn't necessarily mean anything, I was listed that way for years. But I do wonder if she's OK.
@Diva_Jyoti - I know what you mean. I have friends like that too and some days it makes me crazy that I can't find them. Just like you I just want to know that they're doing okay. I've tried the people search engines, social networks, and anything else I can think of without any luck.
Thanks for the comments though and I'm glad you enjoyed the post.
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